Family Justice
Centers
The New York City Family Justice Centers (FJCs) provide comprehensive civil legal, counseling and supportive services for survivors of domestic violence, elder abuse and sex trafficking. Located in all five boroughs, the FJCs are safe, caring environments that provide one-stop services and support. Key City agencies, community, social and civil legal services providers, and District Attorney’s Offices are located on-site at the FJCs to make it easier for survivors to get help. Services are free and confidential. All are welcome regardless of language, income or immigration status.
NYS Domestic & Sexual Violence Hotline
The Hotline responds to and is a resource for victims of domestic and sexual violence, concerned others and professionals, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Funded by the New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence, the hotline provides trained counselors who respond to a variety of service needs, including: crisis intervention, supportive counseling, information and referral services, and technical support to providers.
Safe
Horizon
Safe Horizon envisions a society free of family and community violence. We will lead the way by empowering victims of domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault and human trafficking to move from crisis to confidence.
CONNECT
CONNECT is dedicated to preventing interpersonal violence and promoting gender justice. By building partnerships with individuals and communities, CONNECT strives to help change the beliefs, behaviors and institutions that perpetuate violence. Through legal empowerment, grassroots mobilization and transformative education, CONNECT seeks to create safe families and peaceful communities.
RED FLAGS
OF ABUSE
Domestic violence encompasses a spectrum of behaviors that abusers use to control victims. The following list includes warning signs that someone may be abusive. If you or a friend experience these behaviors from a partner, remember: it is not your fault and there are advocates waiting to help.
Get Help for Yourself or a Friend
Abuse is never the fault of the victim and it can be hard for many reasons, including safety, to end the relationship. If you experience these “red flags,” you can confide in a friend or reach out for support from a domestic violence advocate. If you believe a friend or relative is being abused, offer your non-judgmental support and help.
For help and information: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800- 799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800- 787-3224. For help and assistance call the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800- 799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800- 787-3224
“Red flags” include someone who:
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Wants to move too quickly into the relationship.
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Early in the relationship flatters you constantly, and seems “too good to be true.”
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Wants you all to him- or herself; insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family.
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Insists that you stop participating in hobbies or activities, quit school, or quit your job.
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Does not honor your boundaries.
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Is excessively jealous and accuses you of being unfaithful.
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Wants to know where you are all of the time and frequently calls, emails, and texts you throughout the day.
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Criticizes or puts you down; says you are crazy, stupid, and/or fat/unattractive, or that no one else would ever want or love you.
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Takes no responsibility for his or her behavior and blames others.
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Has a history of abusing others.
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Blames the entire failure of previous relationships on his or her former partner; for example, “My ex was totally crazy.”
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Takes your money or runs up your credit card debt.
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Rages out of control with you but can maintain composure around others.